Should I change myself?

Today I accidentally read a question on Quora from a teenager and then an answer from a guy, a TEDx speaker made me happy with.

Q: I’m a teenager and currently, I only focus on my goals, is this right? Am I missing out on life and on experiences? Would you regret not living your life or would you regret not fulfilling your goals and dreams?

A: They are both not mutually exclusive. Isn’t your life part of that world you want to change?

If you divide yourself from the world, that alienation would always keep you unhappy. What use is changing the world if it does not make you happy? Why does it have to be at the cost of yourself?

That said, you do not choose between your goals or the world. As you get better and better at achieving your goals, you expand them to include the world. Which brings us to the next question:

Are you fit enough to include the world in your goals?

Where do you start?

Maybe from yourself?

So yes, go ahead – achieve your goals! It is not about whose goals they are – its about how big they are, about how big they can be.

As you get better, and the goals grow bigger – maybe you will change the world. Or your country. Or your community. And that’s a great achievement.

Most people cannot change themselves.

Inspirations from Zen for 20s-going-to-30

Next year, I will become 30. To any 20s, this decade of 20s-going-to-30 is kind of a big short. When I was 20, I didn’t know who I would become at the age of 30. How would I look? Where would I live? What would I do for living?  And so on and so forth. Actually, I didn’t give a fuck to any of them. Those questions did come to my mind, but they came and went away like the wind. At early 20s, I just thought I still had a lot of time. Just do it, try and fail. I did have a list of 30 things to do before 30 but then everything became a chaos.

I could not make a decision anymore. Left or right, true or false became so tough for me to decide. Even Neo, my idol in the movie named Matrix. At first, I thought him the ONE, but then I read somewhere that he actually is a virus, Mr. Smith is the ONE instead. And I can NOT reject that idea because I know it is true somehow.

The only one that  help me to escape this abyss of chaos is Zen, the one from Japan, Tibet and every pages of the Books-have-a-soul. And here are some of the quotes that I love most.

Silence isn’t empty. It’s full of answers.

Life isn’t always fair.

Some people are born into better environments. Some people have better genetics. Some are in the right place at the right time. If you’re trying to change your life, all of this is irrelevant. All that matters is that you accept where you are, figure out where you want to be and then do what you can, today and everyday, to hold your head high and keep moving  forward. – Lori  Deschene.


Note to self:

Keep going. You’re doing great. You might not be where you want to be yet, but that’s okay. Just take it one step at a time and keep believing in yourself. And remember: No matter what happens you can still enjoy your life and be happy. – Lori Deschene.

Live simply. Dream big. Be grateful. Give love. Laugh lots. – Paulo Coelho.

Good timber doesn’t grow with ease

The tree that never had to fight

For sun and sky and air and light,

But stood out in the open plain

And always got its share of rain,

Never became a forest king

But lived and died a scrubby thing.

Good timber does not grow with ease:

The stronger wind, the stronger trees;

The further sky, the greater length;

The more the storm, the more the strength.

By sun and cold, by rain and snow,

In trees and men good timbers grow.

-Douglas Malloch.

The New Digital Age: Reshaping the future of people, nations and businesses

This is an outstanding and helpful book relating to technology and human society, especially when it was written by Eric Schmidt – CEO of Google (aka Alphabet) and Jared Cohen – named by Time Magazine as one of 100 most influential people in 2013.

You can buy the book from here.

“This is not a book about gadgets, smart-phone apps or artificial intelligence, though each of these subjects will be discussed. This is a book about technology, but even more, it’s a book about humans, and how humans interact with, implement, adapt to and exploit technologies in their environment, now and in the future, throughout the world. Most of all, this is a book about the importance of a guiding human hand in the new digital age. For all the possibilities that communication technologies represent, their use for good or ill depends solely on people. Forget all the talk about machines taking over. What happens in the future is up to us.”

Excerpt From: Jared Cohen. “The New Digital Age.”

If you are confused and misleading, read this

“Have you ever seen the chess players? They always have to make the next move. They can’t stop in the middle, because that means accepting defeat. There comes a time when defeat is inevitable, but at least they fought until the end. We already have everything we need. There is nothing to improve. Thinking we are good or bad, fair or unfair, all that is nonsense….So go ahead and let yourself go.”

_Adultery – Paulo Coelho.

We need to go all the way.

Dark Money: The Hidden History of the Billionaires Behind the Rise of the Radical Right

Why is America living in an age of profound economic inequality? Why, despite the desperate need to address climate change, have even modest environmental efforts been defeated again and again? Why have protections for employees been decimated? Why do hedge-fund billionaires pay a far lower tax rate than middle-class workers?
The conventional answer is that a popular uprising against “big government” led to the ascendancy of a broad-based conservative movement. But as Jane Mayer shows in this powerful, meticulously reported history, a network of exceedingly wealthy people with extreme libertarian views bankrolled a systematic, step-by-step plan to fundamentally alter the American political system.
The network has brought together some of the richest people on the planet. Their core beliefs—that taxes are a form of tyranny; that government oversight of business is an assault on freedom—are sincerely held. But these beliefs also advance their personal and corporate interests: Many of their companies have run afoul of federal pollution, worker safety, securities, and tax laws.
The chief figures in the network are Charles and David Koch, whose father made his fortune in part by building oil refineries in Stalin’s Russia and Hitler’s Germany. The patriarch later was a founding member of the John Birch Society, whose politics were so radical it believed Dwight Eisenhower was a communist. The brothers were schooled in a political philosophy that asserted the only role of government is to provide security and to enforce property rights.
When libertarian ideas proved decidedly unpopular with voters, the Koch brothers and their allies chose another path. If they pooled their vast resources, they could fund an interlocking array of organizations that could work in tandem to influence and ultimately control academic institutions, think tanks, the courts, statehouses, Congress, and, they hoped, the presidency. Richard Mellon Scaife, the mercurial heir to banking and oil fortunes, had the brilliant insight that most of their political activities could be written off as tax-deductible “philanthropy.”
These organizations were given innocuous names such as Americans for Prosperity. Funding sources were hidden whenever possible. This process reached its apotheosis with the allegedly populist Tea Party movement, abetted mightily by the Citizens United decision—a case conceived of by legal advocates funded by the network.
The political operatives the network employs are disciplined, smart, and at times ruthless. Mayer documents instances in which people affiliated with these groups hired private detectives to impugn whistle-blowers, journalists, and even government investigators. And their efforts have been remarkably successful. Libertarian views on taxes and regulation, once far outside the mainstream and still rejected by most Americans, are ascendant in the majority of state governments, the Supreme Court, and Congress. Meaningful environmental, labor, finance, and tax reforms have been stymied.
Jane Mayer spent five years conducting hundreds of interviews-including with several sources within the network-and scoured public records, private papers, and court proceedings in reporting this book. In a taut and utterly convincing narrative, she traces the byzantine trail of the billions of dollars spent by the network and provides vivid portraits of the colorful figures behind the new American oligarchy.
Dark Money is a book that must be read by anyone who cares about the future of American democracy